Did you ever have one of those weeks when you just couldn't get out of your own head? Well, I had that kind of week.
It's amazing how one comment by a virtual stranger can get in your head & make you begin to question everything you've worked so hard for.
Rumination is an unwanted skill I learned after I was bullied out of my job & career. I have to work hard to avoid what I know will trigger it.
So, it was painful to get triggered by someone who is a "professional" in the anti-bullying sector. (Yes, apparently bullying exists within the sector as well. But that's another post for another day.)
Here's what I know:
There is room for everyone's story in the fight against workplace abuse.
Everyone's experience is REAL. Everyone's experience MATTERS. Everyone should feel SAFE to share their story, and, if they so choose, use it to HELP others.
I've never claimed to be an "expert" in the field of workplace bullying. I've always been 100% transparent about my very limited education - I'm a high-school graduate. I've never been to college. I'm not certified by a "workplace bullying university", I don't have a degree in the "field" of workplace abuse.
Does that make me unqualified to try to use my experience to help others? Apparently, some people think it does. And from a clinical position, they are correct.
But here's what I DO HAVE, that a degree or certificate can't guarantee:
A burning desire to use my experience to help others, to educate and empower them so they don't have to go through what I went through.
To support and bolster up those who have suffered workplace abuse, to let them know they aren't alone.
To use my platform as a sounding board to expose workplace abuse and call out and hold accountable bad leadership and negligent boards of directors whenever it crosses my radar.
I don't need anyone's permission to follow my heart and to be of service to others.
And neither do you.
Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.